Monday, October 30, 2023

Why harmony singers are (usually) lovely people

Not everyone likes to sing in harmony with others, but those who do are often really nice people.

photo by Richard Foster

Why is that? And is it a universal truth?

I think I ought to start with a disclaimer: this has been my experience since I started leading harmony singing groups over 25 years ago. Your experiences may differ!

I often marvel during choir tea breaks or mealtimes at residential singing weekends. The people who come are usually very, very nice people. They are smiley, sociable, friendly and interesting. Is that because my singing sessions only attract lovely people or is there something deeper going on?

I believe that people who enjoy singing in harmony with others all have particular personality traits. These people:

  • enjoy being part of a group
  • tend not to have huge egos
  • love to create something collaboratively
  • work (and play) well with others
  • are either very sociable or are happy to disappear in the crowd

Harmony singing in a group won’t attract those who like to make up their own harmonies, or love to sing solo, or want to stand out in some way, or aren’t good team players, or don’t like being told what to do.

Which leaves lovely people! People who generally live a harmonious life and rub along well with others.

You might also like to read Singing in harmony as a metaphor for life and A choir is a shining example of the perfect community.

I’d love to hear about your experiences. Do you find that harmony singers are lovely people, or have you come across ‘difficult’ singers?

Chris Rowbury


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