Monday, August 26, 2019

Turning bad singing experiences into good singing lessons

Things go wrong from time to time, but it doesn’t have to be a bad experience.

It’s possible to consider things from a different perspective and find the positive. Here’s how.

Many people are “glass half empty” people. Even if you’re not, it’s easy to fall into this way of thinking when something bad happens.

You could really blow a solo; a concert might go badly wrong; you could turn up to lead your choir and realise you’ve left all your sheet music at home; you might be the only singer in your section who’s forgotten to stop singing at a particular point; the song that went so well in rehearsal falls apart in rehearsal; nobody turns up to your workshop.

There are so many ways in which things can go wrong that it’s remarkable we get it right most of the time!

But when disaster does strike, how can we reframe it into a “glass half full” experience?

reframe the situation

There’s always a different way of looking at a bad situation. Every cloud has a potential silver lining, even though it might be hard to figure out at first.

Here are some examples:
You get the idea.

It’s so easy to get lost in the negative when you have a bad experience. If you can become a little more self-aware, it’s always possible to turn things around.

make a new narrative

I’ve written before about how you label yourself as a singer might be holding you back.

It’s very easy to get stuck in one particular way of telling a story.

You can repeat the story of how you were told to stand at the back and mime at school and have never been able to sing since.

You can constantly remind people that the last few concerts you conducted was so bad that you’re thinking of giving up choir leading.

Your friends are tired of you telling them the story of how the singers in your choir can’t hold a tune and are useless at remembering lyrics.

The trouble is, by repeating our story often enough it becomes the only reality. It is possible to reframe the narrative of an experience so we can get out of the never-ending loop and change the future.

Your story of standing at the back and miming can become one of overcoming the odds. That despite lack of encouragement as a child, you went onto join a choir as an adult and found your singing voice.

Stop focusing on the last few concerts that went badly and remind yourself (and others) of all the successful concerts you’ve conducted. And of the choirs that you’ve led and the singing workshops you’ve run. The bad ones are just a blip and can be allowed to fade into the background of your story.

Your friends can support you in your new-found enthusiasm for turning your tuneless choir into a tuneful one. Your story becomes one of helping others to find and develop their voices. Don’t allow yourself to get stuck into what is, but focus on what can be.

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