Monday, June 09, 2025

Feeling like everything is falling apart? Here's a hint: no one really notices!

Last week I wrote about song leaders and singers in rehearsal and at workshops feeling that they’ve made a big mistake. Yet nobody noticed: Think it's all going wrong? Spoiler: nobody's noticing!

photo by madaise

This week I want to consider live performance, both from the perspective of choir leaders and singers.

One of my choirs performed a concert once and it all fell apart. We got bits wrong, people forgot words and we missed entire sections of songs. But in the interval, people came up to us and said it was one of our best performances!

There have also been plenty of times when I’ve not felt in the mood. Or I’ve had low energy when conducting a concert. But again the audience seemed to love it.

What’s going on here?

choir leaders conducting a concert

  • wrong starting notes – I’ve done this many, many times. It sometimes takes me a while to realise, but when I do I simply stop and we start again. Audiences at our concerts are usually not familiar with the repertoire, so there is a very good chance that they’ll think they’re just “weird harmonies” rather than wrong starting notes. Once you’ve owned up to your mistake, the audience usually visibly relax when they realise that those on stage are simply human.
     
  • lost your mojo – it’s a lot to ask for a choir leader to be on top form at every single concert. There will be times when there’s difficult stuff going on in your life, or you’ve been unwell or not slept properly. We all put our professional face on and get on with the job. However, we probably won’t enjoy the concert much and feel that we’ve not given our best. Most of the time an audience won’t notice. You’re probably doing far better than you think. You’ll be focusing on all the bad bits because your experience will be filtered through your low-energy state. And even if an audience realises that you’re struggling, you’ll be amazed at the goodwill that’s out there. They’ll almost certainly be feeling for you and willing you to succeed.
     
  • parts brought in at the wrong time/place – this is related to the wrong starting notes but is even more likely to go unnoticed. Most audience members won’t be that familiar with the structure of a song. If you continue with confidence, they will assume that the song is supposed to go like that!
     

singers in a concert

  • singing the wrong notes (at the wrong time) – when you, an individual singer, make a mistake, you will notice it. It will feel like everyone else in the room will notice too. However, you are just one of many singers and the occasional wrong note will go unnoticed. The secret is to not hold on to the feeling of being wrong, but leave it in the past and continue with the song, staying in the moment.
     
  • coming in too soon/ too late – coming in too soon, or hanging on too long at the end of a line can be very visible. However, I doubt if any audience members will know the specific arrangement of the song you’re singing. It might seem a little odd to them, but, on the whole, they will assume everything’s going to plan. If you don’t suddenly stop or look apologetic and sing with confidence, nobody will spot it.
     
  • not remembering words – again, you’re just one of many singers. Stumbling over lyrics or leaving out a few words isn’t the end of the world (unless you’re singing a solo!). Any small mistakes like that will disappear into the overall mix.
     

other posts you might like

Your singing experience depends on how you feel, not just on what you do

Singers’ big mistakes in performance usually go unnoticed by the audience

How your performance can be a disaster, but the concert a huge success

The concert was great, so why do I feel like a failure?

Not everyone experiences a concert in the same way

Chris Rowbury


 

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